I have learned in this lifestyle that eventually the things you thought were hard limits over time become things that start to intrigue you.
This book changed the way that I think about relationships. Anything can be done within reasonable bounds of safety with the proper precautions. A musical instrument called a "Ratchet". If you insist that it is, then you are most likely reacting to an emotional trigger associated with guns no pun intended.
This book did so much more just add words to my existing knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. If that were true, then you would never get in a car again. In they figure under five minutes after she left him, he toppled off the heels, and hung himself.
I was raised with guns and taught to treat them with respect and to assume that they were loaded at all times. But in cases where the party or class has been specifically arranged to include gun play so that everyone who attends is aware and consents, and so long as stringent safety protocols are in place, I see no reason why this one topic should be avoided. However, there was a stary round in it taht he, a trained, experienced, professional gunsmith who worked with guns everyday, missed.
A death in NYC within the last year was done properly, and with consideration for risks. So people like you can try to spread the scare stories all you want. From that research, and his own two decades as an active leatherman, he has assembled this sensible, readable manual about how kinky relationships really work. A rifle and certain kinds of pistols can have a bullet inside without you being able to see it, but what about a revolver? But there is still the emotional reaction to consider.
It is only when explosives are added to it that it becomes a weapon. We pursue our vision through direct services, education, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit individuals who choose alternative lifestyles and the communities that support them.
Only then does it become something dangerous. In fact, choosing to exclude this type of play from things like conventions increases its danger. You may have negotiated with them, but you have likely not negotiated with everyone else at the play party.
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CAL is committed to creating an environment in our state that supports consenting adults who engage in alternative relationship expressions and structures. Stalk Me Button. Everything that we do in BDSM has some sort of inherent risk. Instead, I will focus on the first two definitions presented.
It was checked and was suppsoedly clear. Know the risks, do everything within reason to mitigate them, and have the consent of everyone involved.
Education makes everyone safer. Guns are scary. Click to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by so that you don't have to come back here every hour and check for updates. I am a firm believer in everyones right to their pursuit of happiness… as long as it is consensual for everyone involved.
Their inner workings had been modified, or had never existed in the first place, such that it incapable of firing a bullet. And in many plays that I performed in, we used props that had been deed to be exact replicas of firearms, but only in appearance. Some people seem to have their entire world constructed around the things they are afraid of. If others want to play with guns, it is there life. And for all you know, one of the people in the room was raped at gun point at some point in her life, or suffers from PTSD related to war combat.
Some of gun play kink did fire blanks, however, which made a sound and sometimes a flash of light for realism. In any case, your view is simply irrational. But a gun, for the purposes of BDSM play, is just a shape. I have a background in theater. Great post! All relationships, not just poly. In high heels. If I buy a gun and never buy bullets, never have them in the house, and never load it, what is dangerous about it?
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You can mitigate this risk by not using sharp knives. If before you play, you ensure that no bullets are in the gun, not by assuming so, but by checking gun play kink to make sure, then the object which was formerly a weapon, is now nothing more than a complicated piece of metal that makes a little clicking noise, similar to one of these:. If you choose to exclude a type of play from your educational programming, you have to live with the consequences, which may include the death of one of your members.
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Kink: gun play
An unloaded gun is not dangerous. The pro Domme didnt keep chesk on her subm, bound and partially hung. I do know that I have no desire to have my wife or anyone else point a gun at me… ever. It is for this reason that guns are prohibited at most public events, a position that I agree with.
I will focus on firearms and objects deed to look like firearms. And if you can acknowledge that the dangers of the weapon had been mitigated in that example, then you should be able to see how the same can be done to a functioning weapon. Gun play is no different. But if there were never bullets in it to begin with, if a bullet has never come within ft of the gun, if it was never intended to be used to harm anyone and never treated as such.
Clicking on the images will take you to the Amazon product. Address:. But why? A gunsmith back home, was cleaning a weapon rifle before working on it. If you make a mistake during single-tail whipping, you could permanently damage the person, a risk that can be mitigated by carefully choosing your targets and practicing the skills to maintain precision. Upon further examination, it is clear that we, as a society, have worked so hard to scare people about the dangers of guns that we forget that they CAN be handled safely and that, without bullets, a gun is just a hunk of metal, no more dangerous than a steel pipe.
If there was only negligible risk in the activity, what is the problem? Some old guy who got lazy and made a mistake is no reason to avoid the activity all together.
It all comes down to the same argument, whether you are talking about breath play, blood play, or gun play. If the weapon has been deed or modified so that it cannot be loaded or discharged, what is dangerous about it? But it was always safe. If these precautions are diligently observed, the risks of gun play are reduced to the level of risk involved with spanking. Respected columnist and scene leader Rinella has carefully explored how BDSM relationships fit into real people's lives. I have spent the last two days lost in thought, re-evaluating a lot of my own choices and beliefs.
I have several of my own. Before that, it is just a piece of metal.